Karin would have loved this!

Cary police blocked off every intersection between the church and the cemetery. As someone said in their tribute: "Karin loved being the center of attention!" She would have been impressed that she stopped traffic at multiple main intersections in Cary!

Dedication

Karin had planned to have the babies' dedication service in January. After Karin's death, a peculiar idea came to mind: why not have it at the funeral when a large family contingent will be present plus Karin's shell will be physically there as well. Others agreed. These children are her legacy! Our celebration of Karin's life ended with the family present promising to assist in raising these children to love the Lord, and the church members attending agreeing to do their part in teaching these children to follow Jesus.

In Loving Celebration

Accommodating Travelers

Many friends and relatives are traveling from across the continent to be present for our celebration of Karin. Local friends want to help in various ways including chauffeuring out of town people to and from the airport or around town and providing guest bedrooms in their homes. If anyone could use this assistance, contact the church office at 919-481-5525 or summit@summit.nc.org.

We are deeply touched by the outpouring of love, support, condolences, and the intent to attend from afar. We are very grateful. These are bittersweet days.

Thank You!!

The care we have received from our dear friends this past week has been incredible!! And it has been soooo needed. I cannot imagine getting through this week without our friends - especially Pam Slice - the only person I know who's gift of organization comes close to my dear Karin - who coordinated so many other friends to provide support for Heather in caring for the kids during the day as well as night and weekend care so we could be at the hospital. And thanks to all that brought meals - our fridge and freezer are stuffed!! :-) And thank you to all who joined our vigil, at the hospital and online!! Your support has been immense beyond words! Seeing and remembering all those that Karin touched has been a great source of comfort to me in some way I cannot explain. Certainly it does nothing to decrease the great loss in my life, but I am so proud of her, and proud to have supported her in the Love she has given to so many, and proud to be her chosen one and best friend these past 10 years.

Tuesday we talked to a family that had only days notice at the hinting of loosing a mother of 37, and though Karin's passing was shockingly quick in the final week, I am so thankful to have had three months to wrestle with this day coming soon.

Karin was always such a positive person, always choosing to believe the most positive in all situations, that I suspect that many who read this blog faithfully had no idea of the seriousness of her diagnosis/prognosis. The type of Karin's cancer is rarely curred (advanced renal cell carcinoma) and in the very advanced stage of hers, is 'incurable'. There was the potential of slowing down or stopping the cancer spread with treatment, and Karin chose focus on God's possibilities not man's limitations, to the degree that she never wanted to admit how serious it was - not wanting the doubt and negative focus that would result I suppose. She did admit to me (on very rare and brief occasions) that her early death was possible, but we thought it was at least a year away, or at least 6 months.

As this chapter of my life closes, I continue to rejoice in Karin's life and good fortune (to be with God), and I continue to be at peace with the need to boldly set forth on a new adventure. It won't be easy - good adventures never are! But great things will come of it, and that is life - well lived! Glory to God.

Kevin

Kevin's health was better today - still a nasty cough but none of the pain and weakness he scared me with last night.

I've heard him *proudly* tell a few people that his mommy is an angel in heaven now, and after a slight pause tag on sadly "but we miss her". It is so wonderful that he is holding on to this positive image!! That mommy went to heaven is the first thing I did tell him yesterday morning, but I did not really do anything else to accentuate the positive (as he was bawling, I was focusing on validating his feelings of loss).
I know Heather had some part in helping him build this positive image of mommy now!! Thank you Heather!!! Heather also reminded me of this picture on our wall of a beautiful angel playing a harp, so I pointed it out to Kevin later and he said "that's what my mommy is like now!!!" :-) It was awesome! It is a great remembrance of a beautiful woman. Kevin has told his mommy a lot in the last year how beautiful she is :-)

Heather is our new nanny. Karin only got to meet her once, for 2 hours, but Karin was so looking forward to spending more time with her, sensing a certain kindred spirit. Heather walked into a tough situation, starting last week on Karin's first full day in ICU, and she has been a great blessing in the midst of this challenging week!

Back to the ER!

At 3:30am Kevin (who had been sleeping in my bed) woke me crying and coughing, saying his tummy hurt and saying he was so cold. He did not look well and a quick feel of his forehead showed he had a fever. In the past I would have given him some tylenol and sent him back to bed, but these were the same complaints Karin had last week, and just 27 hours later her system had already suffered so much damage that her organs were failing despite all the docs could do! I do not want to loose my son too!!!
I woke grandma and grandpa who were trying to get the first good night of sleep in 5 days, and grampy and I took Kevin to the ER.
When I explained about my wife they understood my concern.

Xrays showed that Kevin has small spots of likely pneumonia, but no appearance of the deadly septic shock that killed Karin - his blood oxygen level is normal. They prescribed an antibiotic for the pneumonia. We were home at 6am, but I could not sleep- just lay in bed and look at Kevin and talk to God.

I have never been one to worry about things such as this, but I'm still worried about Kevin despite the doctors reassurances....
Karin's doctors said she was in good health on Dec 18, but 2 days later it was too late to stop the progression of organ failure. Obviously Karin's immune system was weaker, but our oncologist says it was strong enough especially compared to other cancer patients, and they had never mentioned it to us as a concern, even at our appointment 12 hours before Karin got sick. Also, the hospital never isolated the infection that Karin had, and said it could have been viral, which will not respond to antibiotic. I will probably never feel a hot forehead again without a little bit of panic in my stomach.